Thank Goodness It's Monday #436

HISTORIC THANKSGIVING WISHES

I really like Thanksgiving. It’s THE time of the year for my family and many of our friends to gather at my home base and connect or reconnect. 

And for us it’s not just a one day affair. As you read this the squad has already begun to gather. Then the days ahead will bring more and more folks until the big day when the house – and all the guests – will be bursting. 

But wait. There’s more. Then, as Friday and the weekend plays out, the gathering will ebb and flow then gradually diminish until, when the next TGIM arrives in your email, we’ll be back to business as usual.

 

Clearly, I think a Thanksgiving celebration is an inspired and inspiring idea.

But sometimes even the most dynamic leaders can’t get a good idea – like Thanksgiving Day in the United States – rolling and keep it rolling.

TGIM Thanksgiving Takeaway: The next time you can’t get buy-in on a really good idea, take heart from this capsule recap of making Thanksgiving Day “official” throughout our national history:

George Washington's
 Thanksgiving Day Proclamation
October 3, 1789

• On October 3, 1789, President Washington issued a proclamation appointing Thursday, November 26, 1789 as a day of general thanksgiving. For a little while the annual holiday was observed faithfully. But gradually states began to observe the day at different dates.
• In 1864 President Lincoln attempted to get things back on track with a proclamation appointing the fourth Thursday in November as Thanksgiving Day with the idea of having the day observed every year thereafter. However –
• The very next year, the assassination of Lincoln almost caused a suspension of this rule. Lincoln’s successor, President Johnson, prevailed and the uniform national observance was maintained – for a while.
• In 1918 President Wilson made a similar proclamation.
• Then President Roosevelt in 1939, 1940, and 1941 proclaimed the third Thursday in November as Thanksgiving Day.
• Congress in 1941 locked in the fourth Thursday.



1941 Congressional Joint Resolution
makes it "official"

Now the icing on the cake to this lesson (or whipped cream on the pumpkin pie) is that the famous feast that people in the USA envision was first celebrated in Plymouth, Massachusetts in 1621 was not a thanksgiving.

 

Strictly speaking, a Puritan thanksgiving day was more like a Sabbath day; a day of fasting and prayer and one where the playing of sports was forbidden. Failure to properly observe the day was a crime.

What did take place, the historic record confirms – and what all the presidential proclamations were about – was a multi-day Harvest Home celebration. (That’s sorta what we do at our house. How historic.)

In 1621: The main course was venison. There’s no evidence that substantiates there was any turkey on the menu although the colonists and their indigenous American “guests” did go “fowling” in preparation (see the P.S.) 

No potatoes either. At the time they were thought to be poisonous.

 

And they didn’t have apples. So there was no apple cider and no apple pie – or even pumpkin pie because, although there were pumpkins, there was no grain for flour or cows for milk to be churned into butter or whipped into cream.

There was corn. The kernels were boiled, mashed, kneaded, and then fried into flat cakes. And the celebrants ate cranberries and other wild fruits and nuts.

TGIM ACTION IDEA: I hope your Thanksgiving observance, no matter how boisterous or modest, is a celebration for you and yours, too. And – even if it’s been a particularly tough year – I hope you have the good fortune and opportunity to reflect on all that the holiday is intended to embody.

What are you thankful for? The Pilgrims were grateful for the many things that give life meaning and joy … the things that matter no matter what our economic or social circumstances … the things that bind us together as –

A human family. I trust, no matter how difficult current circumstances seem, that Thursday you will find some of the First Thanksgiving spirit.

I certainly don't imagine most of you will busy yourself with e-mail. So I will take this TGIM opportunity to --

Thank YOU, one and all.

►   For your generous acceptance of these messages

►   Thanks for liking and sharing the ones you like best with folks you think will enjoy them or benefit from them. We're pleased to make their acquaintance.

►   And thanks for your feedback, both critical and favorable. I appreciate your views and the effort you make to convey them. I learn from what you have to say and hope that this digital connection can continue to be a conduit for sharing that wisdom and understanding.

My Thanksgiving wish for you: I hope this message finds you far from want ... that life is always plentiful for you ... and that once again on Thanksgiving Day you will use the occasion to resolve to find something to be thankful every day of the year.

Geoff Steck
Chief Catalyst
Alexander Publishing & Marketing

8 Depot Square

Englewood, NJ 07631
201-569-5373

tgimguy@gmail.com  

P.S. Here’s a description of the first Harvest Home celebration in 1621. It comes from a letter colonist Edward Winslow sent to a friend in England. It was first published in London in 1622 so the Elizabethan-era English can be a bit difficult. But the message, especially the second paragraph, is a wonderful articulation of what we celebrate even when times turn “difficult.” 

THE FIRST THANKSGIVING

"Our harvest being gotten in, our governor sent four men on fowling, so that we might, after a special manner, rejoice together after we had gathered the fruit of our labors. They four in one day killed as many fowl as with a little help besides served our company almost a week. At which time amongst other recreations, we exercised our arms, many of the Indians came amongst us, and among the rest their greatest King, Massaoyt, with some ninety men whom for these three days we entertained and feasted; and they went out and killed five deer, which they brought to the plantation, and bestowed upon our governor, and the captain and others." 

 

"And although it be not always so plentiful as it was at this time with us, yet by the goodness of God, we are so far from want, that, we often wish you partakers of our plenty."

Note of the first Thanksgiving celebrated at Plymouth Plantation
as it was published in Mourt's Relation, 1622 

 

Seven score and ten

THINKING ABOUT LINCOLN

AT GETTYSBURG

One of the only two confirmed photos of Abraham Lincoln (circled)
at Gettysburg, taken about noon, just after Lincoln arrived
and about three hours before his brief speech.

Thinking about Lincoln’s “Gettysburg Address” today and concluding that, most of the time, when we let the recollection of those famous 272+/- words run through our heads in a sort of rote “Four score and seven” triggered way, we risk missing the point, even from our historically informed viewpoint.

Yes, the “address” is about the awful carnage and honoring the sacrifice of those who died for a great and noble cause.

 

But when we see it only as “history” --

… and commemorate the passage of 150 years with anniversary lip service

… and conclude that the great mind and heart of Lincoln these few words synthesize has become our 21st Century reality

-- we do Lincoln, the address, the history and ourselves a great disservice.

If you’re inclined to give it some time today, as you re-read it, note how often Lincoln has repeated the word “here” and consider, as I have concluded, it is not simply an orator’s device and doesn’t simply mean “a portion of that field” in Gettysburg, Pennsylvania in 1863.

 

Rather, Lincoln’s “here” speaks across the seven score and ten years to the ever present here and  now and endlessly into the future and calls us -- “the living” -- to continued commitment to meaningful deeds, devotion and action in the service of whatever great and unfinished cause lies before us.

Geoff Steck
Chief Catalyst
Alexander Publishing & Marketing

8 Depot Square

Englewood, NJ 07631
201-569-5373

tgimguy@gmail.com  

The New York Times article from November 20, 1863.

Thank Goodness It's Monday #435

WHAT DO YOU SAY

WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG?

The Parker Brothers game "Sorry!" as I remember it from my kidhood.

 

“I’m sorry,” right?

 

►   Isn’t that what your gut instinct suggests is the correct response?

►   Isn’t a contrite “I’m sorry” the reaction adults expected from the moment you were deemed old enough to know right from wrong and the responsible thing to do if things went wrong?

►   Can’t you still picture your second grade classroom and scowling old Miss Potter waiting insistently to hear you say those magic words?

Darn right. (Especially the Miss Potter thing. But that’s for another time and place.)

 

Guess what. I’m sorry to tell you but it’s likely the “I’m sorry” is --

The Wrong Response

 

We’re all adults here. So let’s allow that the underlying idea of being sympathetic and contrite in acknowledging and moving forward to correct an error is a childhood lesson worth conveying.

But it’s probably the wrong response for one adult to give another under most everyday circumstances where something may have gone awry. 

Here’s why:

“I’m sorry” is all about you, isn’t it? It expresses your feelings; your state of being. And that’s weak on two levels.

 

1. Because it’s you-centric – I’m the one suffering and most sorry here -- it’s first and foremost not about the guy or gal on the receiving end of your mea culpa.

2. “Sorry” is a loaded word, packed with a sense of feeling distress and being in a pitiable condition. So it has the potential to misinform your inner you. Express it enough and you chance becoming it.

 

It’s also often the precursor to the slippery slope of lame and blame. “I’m sorry, BUT …. whimper, snivel, sniff.”

Adults don’t need that. Making lame excuses is self-serving. Making lame excuses by assigning blame elsewhere compounds your guilt and in no way excuses or even begins to rectify the error.

So how do you respond when things go awry?

TGIM ACTION IDEA: If the apology-worthy thing that’s gone wrong is your doing, people want to know what you’re going to do about it. So tell them just that in a way that lets them know you sincerely intend to do all you can to make things right for them.

 

When you feel an “I’m sorry” pronouncement bubbling up, put this –

 

TGIM IDEA IN ACTION: Say “Thank you.” Declare your understanding and sympathy. Apologize. Take personal responsibility for following up. Share a plan of remedial action. Execute that plan, memorably.

 

Big bonus: Do this right and you may actually come out on the other side of “something gone wrong” with an even stronger bond or relationship than you might have had without a misstep.

 

So here’s just a bit more detail on the actionable components:

 

►Say “Thank you.” This immediately puts things in a positive light. Assuming the injured party is all cranked up and ready to have at you for some screw up, it’s quite disarming to hear, “Thank you for telling me …” Thank you for bringing this to my attention …” Thank you for coming forward …”

►Declare your understanding and sympathy. “That’s really awful … deplorable … unacceptable ….”  Expressed with sincere understanding this lets the victim of a wrong know you care about them personally. 

►Apologize. But not with a wimpy “Sorry …” Man up and let the victim know you relate. Say the comfortable-for-you equivalent of “That makes me mad, too.”

 

►Take personal responsibility for following up. “I’m going to personally see that your situation is resolved …”

►Share a plan of remedial action. “… resolved by doing X, Y and Z.” State this action plan in terms of the wronged party, not in terms of you or your operation.

 

►Execute that plan, memorably. The note you end up on is the note the offended party will have ringing in their ears in the future.  ASAP make things right – plus some. Involve others on your team in the response to make clear you’re not taking things lightly or dealing in isolation. Follow up on the follow-up. Confirm the remedial actions personally and touch base again even after you’ve been assured all has been made right.

 

TGIM Takeaway: When you’re able to flip your thinking and address a situation gone wrong in terms of the victim -- not your situation, your excuse or what you felt happened – you may end up with a positive recovery that yields a bond and benefits that extend well into both your futures.

 

And if this TGIM was NOT particularly useful for you –

 

Thanks for reading this far anyway. I hope you didn’t find it a complete waste of time. I know how infuriating some of that kind of information can be. Let me know if there’s subject matter you’d rather be hearing about I will do my best to share some personal experience or find other resources that might be beneficial for you. Until then, I look forward to reaching out to you again next Monday – or sooner.

 

See. The steps make sense.

And not being sorry can work out just fine.

Geoff Steck
Chief Catalyst
Alexander Publishing & Marketing

8 Depot Square

Englewood, NJ 07631
201-569-5373

tgimguy@gmail.com  

P.S. Speaking of righting wrongs in the business world, our friend, Sales Mastermind and customer care guru Jeffrey Gitomer suggests this –

Reality Check: Business studies show that it takes 12 positive occurrences to overcome one negative experience. (Men know this – it’s why roses come in dozens.)

Thank Goodness It's Monday #434

“THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE”

(AND WHAT THAT MIGHT REALLY MEAN)

“Let us be true to our democratic ideals, not by the utterance of cheap platitudes, not by windy oratory, but by living in such a manner as to show that democracy can be efficient in promoting the public welfare during periods of peace and efficient in securing national freedom in time of war.”

 

Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919)

26^thPresident

It’s become a bit of commonplace to acknowledge our living military veterans with the phrase, “Thank you for your service.”

 

And I’m OK with the idea of sharing that sentiment … somewhat.

Why the hesitation? My discomfort with the “Thank you for your service” acknowledgement came fully to roost several years ago.

That’s when a new networking acquaintance said it when introduced for the first time to another longer-time networking buddy, who recently returned from an 8-month tour in Afghanistan.

 

And at first I thought –

 

That’s nice. A stranger acknowledging a peer who has chosen a path outside the for-profit world that we were networking about. Without knowing anything about my Army Reserve friend’s trials and tribulations, his dedication was recognized.

But then I thought: Has “Thank you for your service” become –

Lip service? Has it devolved into a quickly uttered phrase as lacking in sincerity and genuineness as, say, the automatic greeting “Pleased to meet you” has become?

Partial conclusion: Maybe not in the networking-at-lunch group instance I’ve cited.

But, unfortunately, maybe so in the world at large.

The lunchtime discussion that followed didn’t do much to put to rest that nagging notion.

So, with the goal of resolving my mixed feelings somewhat (writing focuses your thinking), and giving us subject matter worth considering on a day set aside to pay tribute to the service of our veterans, I’d like to take a whack at it in this TGIM.

 

The lunchtime networking progressed as usual: One-minute intros, a round of updates, referral thank-yous and such. Then our custom is to go around the table again and ask, “Who has a question for Geoff … a question for Joe … a question for Rick …etc.”

 

And since it was clear that our Reservist buddy was the hot new item that day, we began with questions for him.

 

And we stayed with him for the rest of the lunchtime.

 

He answered politely and with candor. His one-man’s-view was enlightening. 

• He compared his most recent experiences to previous tours in both Iraq and Afghanistan.
• He was open about sharing and spoke frankly about heightened expectations and his frontline perception of the military’s ability to deliver on those expectations.
• Given the many stumbling blocks placed in the path of accomplishing the mission as it evolved, he felt he and his comrades were doing an exemplary job.
• And he was clear in his mind about the delineation between the military and civilian/political aspects of bringing affairs to a close.

But here’s the real point. Perhaps the most thought-stimulating thing our serviceman had to say at lunchtime was this:

He was truly irritated at what he felt was the lack of accurate reporting about the facts and activities in far away areas of engagement.

He observed that as he drove to meet us, when he turned to the “all-news-all-the-time” radio stations, the top stories and breaking news concerned – 

• Lindsay Lohan’s missed bail hearing.
• And Snooki from “Jersey Shore.”

What he wanted to know more about: That day was May 20, 2010. On May 19 insurgents launched a 3 a.m. attack on Bagram Air Base in a confrontation that finally subsided at midday. The Bagram attack came a day after a suicide bomber struck a U.S. convoy in Kabul, killing 18.

Our reservist’s thoughts and his concerns were largely focused – as much of ours should have been -- on our country’s involvement and the world view.

Yet Lindsay Lohan grabbed the headlines. 

 

What Were We Thinking?

What ARE We Thinking?

 

Observing Veteran’s Day has devolved into grim-faced political speechifying and posturing topped with a goodly chunk of hoo-hah touting accelerating-into-the-holiday-season sales at the mall.

Then it’s “goodbye and good luck” and on to the next news cycle.

 

Are these the sincere expressions of “Thank you for your service” to the living and dead that at least some part of observing Veteran’s Day should be about?

I think not.

 

So here’s my TGIM vote for making this Veteran’s Day observance --

A bit more meaningful: If we’re going to be quick to thank people for their service, we owe them – and ourselves – the most complete understanding of the situation that we can muster. As with so much in this life, we can’t passively wait to have the facts served to us.

 

The experience of our reservist buddy on his way to our network lunch makes it clear --

The obligation is on us. In the world of attention-grabbing Lindsay and Snooki celebrity and its 2013 equivalent -- some personal effort is required.

 

VETERAN’S DAY 2013 ACTION IDEA #1: Take it on. Do your part. Initiate inquiry into important things. In all things, stretch yourself to find truthful information. Be proactive. Seek wisdom. Discuss. And get understanding. Then act on that understanding.

Then you can honestly move ahead with –

 

VETERAN’S DAY 2013 ACTION IDEA #2: From your place of understanding, mean it when you say “Thank you for your service.”

Thanks for your service, Rick -- and all, past and present, who have earned honors on Veteran’s Day.

 

And thanks to you for making time today for this TGIM. Wisely make the most of the rest of the day.

 

Geoff Steck
Chief Catalyst
Alexander Publishing & Marketing

8 Depot Square

Englewood, NJ 07631
201-569-5373

tgimguy@gmail.com  

P.S. On page 28 of his “Notebook F No. 1” 1836-1840 the always-insightful Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) recorded: 

Serve self you serve society.

Serve society serve yourself.

Thank Goodness It's Monday #433

THE DREADED HOLIDAY SEASON

IS OFFICIALLY UPON US

Halloween’s behind us. So now begins the time of the year so many folks dread. 

Yup. We’re talking about the rapidly-building-speed Holiday Season ahead.

Now don’t get me wrong. There is and will be lots to like about the 60+ days remaining of 2013. And the warm, and generous, and celebratory friends and family parts are as high up on my “like” list as most anything.

But there’s one part that looms ominous for anyone who sells for a living (and that’s virtually everyone reading this when you pause to consider the scope of the concept of “selling”).

And it isn’t the holiday traffic or crowds or repetitive elevator-music renditions of tunes you thought you once loved.

TGIM HOLIDAY CHALLENGE: ‘Tis the season for decision makers to put buying decisions on hold.

By far the scariest thing after Halloween frights are the words –

“Call me after the holidays.”

Sorry to be so shockingly blunt. But you know you’re going to be hearing this phrase and others like it often in the days ahead. As a friend, I just wanted to prepare you.

And maybe share a little --

TGIM SALES INSIGHT: “Call me after the holidays” is NOT simply a sales objection you have to overcome. It’s worse.

It’s a stall.

 

And what makes “stalls” worse than objections is that –

When you bump up against a stall you have to bob and weave and slip around it in some way to at least get to the real objection so you then can deliver the sales-winning KO blow to it.

How do you do that effectively in the days ahead and still keep the happy holiday spirit? 

TGIM ACTION IDEAS: Consider the following proven-under-fire tactics and responses an early holiday gift from us to you:

► Laugh it off. Ho, ho, ho. Just making the other person a bit more at ease can go a long way toward slipping past the after-the-holidays stall. So, perhaps, be funny in your response. 

Call them on the stall. “When did you turn into Scrooge, Mr. Prospect? You think that old dodge can come between us?” Or say in words that come easily for you, “So many people have already asked me to call after the first of the year that I’m booked until April. However I do have a just few opportunities available in 2013 and I’ll make one available for you. How about it?”

► Agree. Then disagree. Say: “I know what you mean … lots of people feel that way … the days are zipping by. But what most folks don’t realize is that …” 

Then unload your compelling buy-now facts, perhaps something like, “… with materials costs rising between now and year end, plus the shipping increases that are inevitable in the new year, there’s probably a 20 percent saving for those who buy now. Are you sure you want to lose that savings?”

►Question the prospect into a corner. Then close when they get there. Just play out the classic overcoming-the-stall sales script: 

“What will be different after the holidays? Will anything change over the holidays that will cause you not to buy?” (And, of course, the prospect can’t provide a specific objection because he’s just stalling and so sputters, “Oh, no.”) “Great!” you exclaim. “Let’s get your order underway NOW and, if you’d prefer, we’ll deliver after the holidays but at today’s locked-in low rate.”

►Close on the stall line. Hey, it’s the archetypal opportunity for unleashing the Assumptive Close. You know how it plays out:

 

As if assuming that the deal’s been agreed to you begin completing the order process while asking: “What day after the first of the year did you want to take delivery?”

►Spell out precisely when “after the holidays” is. Get the commitment to do set out doing business “after the holidays” and “close” at least that. Ask: “After Thanksgiving? Or Christmas? Or the first of the year?”

 

Pick a specific date and time. Then make the prospect put that appointment -- even if it’s just for a callback -- on their calendar (ideally 2013, if not in the 2014 imprinted-with-your-info datebook you give them). That makes your follow-up more definite and the steps to break the commitment more substantial from the prospect side.

►Create reasons to NOT delay. If they’re not already in place, there’s still ample time to make them so on your side of the equation and then sell – and close – on them in 2013. Offer Act-Now incentives and alternatives such as: 

Discounted year-end pricing.  Special 2013-only added-value inducements. Advance peeks at scheduled 2014 price increases. Cash-flow-abetting after-year-end billing. 2013 inventory-reducing delivery postponed until after the new year begins. No-cost technical assistance through December. Explore the idea of favorable tax consequences for them in a year-end 2013 purchase.

► Get past the stall with holiday cheer. You know you’re going to be spreading some no matter what.

Hand deliver that pocket appointment book we mentioned above, then execute your date-making move. Drop in with the small holiday plant (or better) for the prospect’s office. Throw a holiday party and offer invited prospects and customers a tonight-only deal. Enter fourth-quarter buyers in the last 2013 free-shipping Sweepstakes Giveaway.

Caution: In the spirit of the season, be a “Wise Man” bearing such gifts: Use your finest judgment; you know best what the limitations here would be. Don’t compromise yourself or your customer/prospect. Adhere to legal limitations and industry-approved practices. 

TGIM REALITY CHECK: Success in overcoming the “Call me after the holidays” stall is directly related to the quality of the relationship between seller and prospect/customer. 

A solid existing relationship allows you more liberty to press for immediate action.

A developing relationship may require that you have to let year-end closing success slide by as you wait for the new calendar year to seal a deal.

So, since we all know the “Call me after …” line of defense is out there, you’re forewarned with 60+ days to go. Hone the ideas reviewed here plus whatever else has worked for you in the past.

And finally, speaking of what’s worked in the past …

►Arm yourself with a testimonial to suit the season. Similar situations resolved in your favor recounted by third parties are more powerful than any pitch you can make to get the reluctant “call me in the new year” prospect buy today.

Ask someone who overcame the seasonal stall mentality and bought from you (and was glad they did) for a quick testimonial. 

If you don’t already have it, get it now. Use it now as needed.  

TGIM Bottom Line: As sure as you’ll be wondering once again why The Barking Dogs rendition of Jingle Bells became a seasonal staple (you can hear it HERE, I dare you), someone will ask you to call “after the holidays” or “in the New Year”. When that happens, don’t get mad – get creative.
 

Woof, woof, woof.

Woof woof, woof.

Bow, wow, bow wow, wow.

Geoff Steck
Chief Catalyst
Alexander Publishing & Marketing

8 Depot Square

Englewood, NJ 07631
201-569-5373

tgimguy@gmail.com 

P.S.  “After all, the best part of a holiday is perhaps not so much to be resting yourself, as to see all the other fellows busy working.” Kenneth Grahame (1859-1932) said that. Although he’s most famous as the author of the childhood classic The Wind in the Willows, the success of that book came only after his retirement from a nearly 30-years spent rising through the ranks at the Bank of England.