“THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE”
(AND WHAT THAT MIGHT REALLY MEAN)
“Let us be true to our democratic ideals, not by the utterance of cheap platitudes, not by windy oratory, but by living in such a manner as to show that democracy can be efficient in promoting the public welfare during periods of peace and efficient in securing national freedom in time of war.”
Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919)
26thPresident
It’s become a bit of commonplace to acknowledge our living military veterans with the phrase, “Thank you for your service.”
And I’m OK with the idea of sharing that sentiment …
somewhat.
Why the hesitation?
My discomfort with the “Thank you for
your service” acknowledgement came fully to roost several years ago.
That’s when a new networking acquaintance said it when
introduced for the first time to another longer-time networking buddy, who
recently returned from an 8-month tour in Afghanistan.
And at first I thought –
That’s nice. A
stranger acknowledging a peer who has chosen a path outside the for-profit
world that we were networking about. Without knowing anything about my Army
Reserve friend’s trials and tribulations, his dedication was recognized.
But then I thought:
Has “Thank you for your service”
become –
Lip service? Has
it devolved into a quickly uttered phrase as lacking in sincerity and
genuineness as, say, the automatic greeting “Pleased
to meet you” has become?
Partial conclusion:
Maybe not in the networking-at-lunch group instance I’ve cited.
But, unfortunately, maybe so in the world at large.
The lunchtime discussion that followed didn’t do much to put
to rest that nagging notion.
So, with the goal of resolving my mixed feelings somewhat
(writing focuses your thinking), and giving us subject matter worth considering
on a day set aside to pay tribute to the service of our veterans, I’d like to
take a whack at it in this TGIM.
The lunchtime networking progressed as usual: One-minute
intros, a round of updates, referral thank-yous and such. Then our custom is to
go around the table again and ask, “Who has a question for Geoff … a question
for Joe … a question for Rick …etc.”
And since it was clear that our Reservist buddy was the hot
new item that day, we began with questions for him.
And we stayed with him for the rest of the lunchtime.
He answered politely
and with candor. His one-man’s-view was enlightening.
- He compared his most recent experiences to previous tours in both Iraq and Afghanistan.
- He was open about sharing and spoke frankly about heightened expectations and his frontline perception of the military’s ability to deliver on those expectations.
- Given the many stumbling blocks placed in the path of accomplishing the mission as it evolved, he felt he and his comrades were doing an exemplary job.
- And he was clear in his mind about the delineation between the military and civilian/political aspects of bringing affairs to a close.
But here’s the real
point. Perhaps the most thought-stimulating thing our serviceman had to say
at lunchtime was this:
He was truly irritated
at what he felt was the lack of accurate reporting about the facts and
activities in far away areas of engagement.
He observed that as he drove to meet us, when he turned to
the “all-news-all-the-time” radio stations, the top stories and breaking news
concerned –
- Lindsay Lohan’s missed
bail hearing.
- And Snooki from “Jersey Shore.”
What he wanted to
know more about: That day was May 20, 2010. On May 19 insurgents launched a
3 a.m. attack on Bagram Air Base in a confrontation that finally subsided at
midday. The Bagram attack came a day after a suicide bomber struck a U.S.
convoy in Kabul, killing 18.
Our reservist’s thoughts and his concerns were largely
focused – as much of ours should have been -- on our country’s involvement and
the world view.
Yet Lindsay Lohan grabbed the headlines.
What Were We Thinking?
What ARE
We Thinking?
Observing Veteran’s Day has devolved into grim-faced
political speechifying and posturing topped with a goodly chunk of hoo-hah
touting accelerating-into-the-holiday-season sales at the mall.
Then it’s “goodbye and good luck” and on to the next news
cycle.
Are these the sincere expressions of “Thank you for your service” to the living and dead that at least
some part of observing Veteran’s Day should be about?
I think not.
So here’s my TGIM vote for making this Veteran’s Day
observance --
A bit more
meaningful: If we’re going to be quick to thank people for their service,
we owe them – and ourselves – the most complete understanding of the situation
that we can muster. As with so much in this life, we can’t passively wait to
have the facts served to us.
The experience of our reservist buddy on his way to our
network lunch makes it clear --
The obligation is on
us. In the world of attention-grabbing Lindsay and Snooki celebrity and its
2013 equivalent -- some personal effort
is required.
VETERAN’S DAY 2013 ACTION
IDEA #1: Take it on. Do your part. Initiate inquiry into important things.
In all things, stretch yourself to find truthful information. Be proactive.
Seek wisdom. Discuss. And get understanding. Then act on that understanding.
Then you can honestly move ahead with –
VETERAN’S DAY 2013 ACTION
IDEA #2: From your place of understanding, mean it when you say “Thank you for your service.”
Thanks for your
service, Rick -- and all, past and present, who have earned honors on
Veteran’s Day.
And thanks to you for making time today for this TGIM.
Wisely make the most of the rest of the day.
Geoff Steck
Chief Catalyst
Alexander Publishing & Marketing
Chief Catalyst
Alexander Publishing & Marketing
8 Depot Square
Englewood, NJ 07631
201-569-5373
201-569-5373
P.S. On page 28 of his “Notebook F No. 1” 1836-1840
the always-insightful Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882) recorded:
Serve self you serve society.
Serve society serve yourself.